I watched it as an adult and loved it!

So for the “watch together with my kid” part, this one is 💯

I’m not sure if that’s what you or the teacher meant, but I don’t agree with the thought that somebody is “a bit naive” because they didn’t grow up in the USA.

So, is he happy with the pigtails? You can also curl them into balls, a.k.a. double buns.

Encourage everything that challenges gender boundaries as much as you can. Society will push against it soon enough, even the society of other kids in school.

I tell her I’ll give her a little but I still get most cause I’m bigger and that always works.

On a 4yo that’s basically angelic.

OK, that might be the case for you but please do not generalize. IMO any preschool/kindergarten educator who dismisses a parent’s question has failed.

Or do you refer to what’s happening during the day?

If he’s in daycare, that’s precisely their job. You should talk to them, I’m sure they’ll also have book recommendations (I know such books exist but can’t think of a title). If he’s not, 3-4 years is a good time to start.