His wife didn’t ‘make him’ do anything. He’s a grown-ass man.

Honestly, I read it like OP wanted pity points.

I’m typing this as my 15 month old is falling asleep in my arms for the ‘night’ (she’ll wake up in 3 hours for the midnight snack).

OP, get yourself some counseling. If you didn’t feel like you wanted kids, you should have been up front with your wife. That child is now brought into the world and you need to nut up and put your wants and desires on the back burner.

Like others have said better than me, get your village helping you. The first several months are rough, and your wife and child need support, and so do you. Then, when things ease (and they will), maybe you can get out for an afternoon. But don’t whine about how your wife isn’t doing anything.