First of all, you should understand that she isn’t doing this out of malice. As far as I understand, she only does that with Grandma. Does she even want to be with her? Maybe that’s just her way of showing that she doesn’t want to.
If being with her isn’t the problem, is Grandma doing something she doesn’t like? Noises, tickling, holding her in a way she doesn’t like, something like that?
It’s also possible that the first time was an accident and that Grandma’s reaction caught her interest. Now she wants to experience that reaction again, and maybe she does. “Grandma makes funny faces or funny noises when I do that.” Tell Grandma to just not react in any way and take your daughter away. You’re already telling her that it’s not okay. It’s best to say this using same words you use when your daughter gets hurt.
There’s no need for a punishment like a timeout when she does that. But there can be consequences, which, unlike punishment, have a direct, logical connection. If she hurts Grandma she just can’t be with her anymore. Give her something to play with, like building blocks or a puzzle, or whatever she’s playing with these days.
Our oldest is only 4 years old but when there is a flea market or a street market we give him some money he can use to buy stuff. This way he learns that he can’t buy everything he sees and has to set priorities.
First of all, you should understand that she isn’t doing this out of malice. As far as I understand, she only does that with Grandma. Does she even want to be with her? Maybe that’s just her way of showing that she doesn’t want to.
If being with her isn’t the problem, is Grandma doing something she doesn’t like? Noises, tickling, holding her in a way she doesn’t like, something like that?
It’s also possible that the first time was an accident and that Grandma’s reaction caught her interest. Now she wants to experience that reaction again, and maybe she does. “Grandma makes funny faces or funny noises when I do that.” Tell Grandma to just not react in any way and take your daughter away. You’re already telling her that it’s not okay. It’s best to say this using same words you use when your daughter gets hurt.
There’s no need for a punishment like a timeout when she does that. But there can be consequences, which, unlike punishment, have a direct, logical connection. If she hurts Grandma she just can’t be with her anymore. Give her something to play with, like building blocks or a puzzle, or whatever she’s playing with these days.