We've transitioned our 1yo out of our bed and to their own cot. We had to co-sleep after they puked on their old cot and refused to sleep at all once it was cleaned. Every time we've gotten them used to the cot something messes it up like travelling etc. but it's finally looking like something stable. I was amazed the other night because it was the first time ever we didn't need to hold a hand or pat them to sleep, I could just lay them down in bed and watched them drift off. The sleep is a little better but still not sleeping through the night and also constantly sick from daycare so they keep waking up cause of the coughing. When they were with us it was a lot easier to put the pacifier back in and go back to sleep but now we have to get out of bed to send them back to sleep. Then there's also the night feeds... we're still doing a 10:30pm bottle and another bottle anywhere from 3am to 7am, it all depends on how much they ate during the day. Which they've now decided they don't like any of the food we make even though it's exactly the same stuff that would be at daycare. Which then prolongs the cycle of not eating enough and needing night feeds and then not eating much because there was milk overnight. I feel like we have to cut the night feeds somehow but it feels really cruel to starve them when they're used to it... I just hope getting them to their own bed will be a positive turning point and we'll actually be sleeping through the night soon. I know other people have it worse but everyone I talk to directly has babies that sleep from 8pm to 8am with no stirring and no bottle, it's making me feel like I'm messing something up. Overall still feels like we're taking positive steps though. Thanks for reading the rant.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ca/post/28283915 > The article doesn't make any recommendations, but rather what to look for /avoid. > > Who the authors are: > > > Emma Liptrot; PhD student, Department of Educational and Counselling Psychology, McGill University > > > Adam Kenneth Dubé; Associate Professor of Learning Sciences, Faculty of Education, McGill University > > Relevant sections: > > > ### **What to ignore** > > > 1. User ratings & reviews: > > > > Popular EduApps in Apple’s and Google’s app stores typically have very positive ratings (above four stars). Yet, experts still raise concerns about their quality and expert-approved apps do not necessarily receive the highest star ratings. Written reviews are rarely more informative. Research shows most reviews simply praise apps rather than explaining specific features. [...] > > > 2. Apple or Google rankings > > > > Educators and parents may visit an app store’s “top charts” lists to find EduApps. Yet, how Apple’s and Google’s algorithms determine which apps “top the charts” is unclear. [...] > > > 3. Recommendations from app review websites > > > > Educators and parents might look to external app review websites like Common Sense Media for recommendations. But research shows many of the apps recommended by these websites still need substantial improvement [...] > > > >  > > > ### **What to look for** > > > 1. Curriculum: What apps teach > > > > At the bare minimum, EduApps must include content that is covered in an established learning program. Yet, many EduApps are what researchers call “educational misfits” because they are only weakly related to education, if at all. Look for apps that clearly state which curriculum their content is based on (for example, a particular provincial curriculum, a supplemental curriculum for learning an Indigenous language) or detail the content (suitable for grades 1–3 math). Don’t bother with an app that doesn’t tell you what it covers. > > > 2. Learning theory: How apps teach > > > > [...] Look for apps that describe how they teach. Choose ones using approaches that align with your needs. > > > 3. Scaffolding: How apps support learning > > > > EduApps should include supports that help children build their understanding and accomplish learning goals. These supports (called scaffolding) can include hints or instructions when children get stuck and breaking down complex tasks into smaller chunks or adapting difficulty to match children’s abilities. [...] > > > 4. Feedback: How apps correct learning > > > > If we want children to learn from their mistakes, feedback is essential. Look for apps that give children informative feedback so they know where they went wrong and why. > > > 5. Educational expertise: Who made the app > > > > Many app developers are not education experts, and their priorities may not align with those of educators and parents. [...] > >

My 14 month old had a short wake up at 2:40am. For whatever reason (work stress, mostly) I couldn’t get back to sleep. I’ll be running on about 4 hours of sleep and caffeine today.

Hello, I am 20 years old and a young parent myself. I have to admit that I haven't been very good at learning some of the basic things in life, like washing my face, legs, and feet. My parents never taught me these things when I was young. Furthermore, I was never taught how to cook or clean. There are so many things that my parents didn't teach me, and I'm really grateful that my wife has been helping me learn as I come to understand that I don't know certain things. It makes me feel a bit ashamed, but I really want to learn. So, please teach your kids how to bathe and live.

So I gave birth to my first (likely only) child about 10 days ago. First off, I can’t comprehend how much I love her. But more to the point, I’m having such big emotions about her and the world I brought her into. I’m big into climate activism and uh, in general doing my damnedest to ensure there is a world for her to grow up into. So it’s so weird looking at her. Thinking about the kind of tasks she has ahead of her should she go down the activist path. Wondering what kind of struggles she’s gonna face thanks to my generation. And also, I’m aware she’s her own person and will become herself, not mini-me. But in light of all of that, whenever I look at her, I just feel so much hope. It’s so irrational, this child’s highest achievement so far is drinking 85ml of formula in one go. But I look at her and feel like we will be okay. It’s a stark contrast from the typical doom n gloom around child-creation you find in activist circles. Stuff about overpopulation and dooming your progeny. Anyways… does anyone feel the same? Am i just a super sappy postpartum person?

Not critical, but bothers me for some reason ha ha

Image description: a screenshot from Apple Health showing a terrible night’s sleep.

I'm in the process of developing a concept for a "private" school here in the United States. The goal is to make education highly accessible, with tuition being exceptionally affordable—just a few hundred dollars per year. Additionally, there will be significant financial assistance available, with the possibility of free tuition for those who qualify. Earnings for Students: * Grades K-7/8: Students will earn $10 per hour for attending school. * Grades 8-12 and Beyond: Older students will earn $17 per hour. Our schedule is designed to balance rigorous education with personal time, offering 3 school days per week, each lasting 9 hours. Financial Structure: * Younger Students' Earnings: * * While younger students (K-7/8) will earn money, they won’t be able to access these funds until they demonstrate a certain level of maturity or reach age 16. This is around the time they might start needing to make significant purchases, like a car. Annual Earnings: * * $13,000 per year, with opportunities to increase this amount if students choose to attend additional days or participate in special programs. Total Accumulated by Milestones: * $103,000 to $116,000 by the time they complete 7th/8th grade. * $191,128 to $204,128 by the time they finish 12th grade. * $176,256 to $220,320 if they continue their education to a doctoral level. Spending and Financial Independence: * Students will have autonomy over how they spend their money, reinforcing financial independence and responsibility. * For large purchases (especially for those under 18), we encourage a discussion with a school advisor to ensure they are making informed decisions. * When buying anything for parents or family, we require a consultation with a school advisor to protect the student's financial interests. There are no restrictions on how students can use their funds: * They can spend on personal items (e.g., cars, technology, hobbies), educational expenses (e.g., college tuition, courses, travel for study), or even entrepreneurial ventures. Academic Structure: * Starting from grade 3, students will be introduced to combat training, including survival skills and etiquette, which are essential for self-defense and personal development. * After grade 8 or 9, students can diverge into specialized pathways, similar to college tracks, and graduate with a degree. Classroom Environment: * Class Sizes: 17 students per room, with 30 rooms and 10 districts in total. * Teaching Model: Each room will have 17 specialized teachers and one head teacher to ensure personalized and focused instruction. * Health and Data Collection: We will collect comprehensive health and educational data on each student. Parents will have full access to this data, with transparency on who is viewing the information. However, sensitive information, such as sexual activity (unless a risk is identified), sexual orientation, gender, and religion/culture, will remain private. Student Wellness and Education: * Sex Education: Basic sex education will begin in 5th grade, with more detailed instruction in 8th-9th grade. Additional learning opportunities will be available for students interested in areas like medical fields. * Health Exams: Due to the physical nature of some of our programs, such as combat and martial arts, we will require two separate body exams each year. Parents will have the option to opt in, but ultimately, we encourage students to make their own decisions regarding their participation. If there's a disagreement between the student and the parent, a council will review both perspectives and determine the best course of action. Technology Integration: * VR Helmets and Avatars: For interactive remote learning or sick days (which are optional, not required), students can use VR helmets and avatars to stay engaged. * Augmented Reality (AR): AR will be integrated into daily learning, with noise-cancellation headphones and customizable lighting available to enhance the educational environment. Feedback from Parents: I value the input of parents and guardians, as your perspectives are crucial in refining this concept. I'm open to suggestions, concerns, or ideas on how to make this school a place where every child can thrive academically, socially, and personally.

A lot of kids movies/tv perpetuate harmful gender roles. The obvious culprit is Disney - and the 'a woman's role is to get married' storylines. Even the later Disney movies seem to be embracing the message even while appearing to refute it. But it's larger than that. All the instances where a female character is only in a supporting role, or female characters have certain traits (empathy) but lack other traits (aggressiveness). Doing a gender swap and seeing the differences in how characters are portrayed has helped me see the double standards. I've become more sensitive to this as I'm screening media for my young girls to watch. A couple of the media that I've seen are the g rated Ghibli movies - Totoro and Kiki's shows young girls that are independent, aggressive, courageous, and go through problems and overcome them. I'm looking for some more examples of movies - g rated especially - in that vein.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/17261680

Changed the title as it wasn't clear

It is likely that the majority of parents are already aware of this, but it is nevertheless important to reiterate the importance of listening to children. It is crucial to listen to their emotions and thoughts, and to ensure that their identity is not disregarded. For any police officer or enforcement worker, it is of the utmost importance to ensure that their children are aware of their expected return. As a child, I was never certain of my father's return, and I would often wait up until the late hours to ascertain that he had arrived home safely. Finally, it is important to allow children to explore and discover their own identities. While it is understandable that parents may wish for their children to adhere to certain religious or cultural traditions, it is crucial to recognize that each individual is unique and may ultimately pursue a different path than their parents' expectations. It is evident that there are instances where a child's religious or sexual identity is challenged by their parents, resulting in significant distress and conflict within the family unit. This dynamic can have a profound impact on the child's self-perception and expectations of social interaction, potentially leading to long-term psychological distress. ( A significant proportion of the difficulties I have experienced in life can be attributed to the manner in which I was treated as a child. Consequently, I am unable to experience genuine happiness. It is imperative that parents refrain from such actions towards their children. Affectionate regard is to be extended to them. Love Them!)