Seemed to fuck up one of the pumps I had.

Be careful about refills. If you have some left in the bottle the ratio of soap to water can get off.

I’m writing this, sitting in a hotel room with the kids as my wife is outside chatting with her family.
Family or friends with can help quite a bit. Just someone there to take up some of the kids attention is really all you’re asking for. If they want to do more than that, that’s good too.
10 mo old is rough. I’d say, plan to be within 15-30 mins of a hotel for most of the trip. A lake/pool seems like a good option.

Do play dates with the same kids. Diff ones can be a lot.
It helps if there’s something there that kid likes. And if you can lead the conversation.
Look at all these pretty toys. My favorite color is blue. What’s your favorite color, Timmy? Max’s favorite color is green.
Etc. etc.

Feeling involved in the convo is good even if they aren’t speaking

Take him to a lil kids park as much as you can. Like every weekend. When you’re there, be on the periphery and encourage him to go play with other kids. Don’t hover right next. It’s ok to make the intros and then go hang on a bench. Idea is to get him playing with other kids by himself, getting into lil disagreements, dealing with kids that aren’t nice, etc.

The sleep training method I used was:

• get sleepy and relaxed holding in arms
• put in crib. Use words Naptime or whatever they typically hear at sleeping time. Rub back a few times. 1 min max. Then walk away
• cry a lil because you feel bad.
• put a timer on for 5 mins.
• at end of 5 mins, come in, pick up and comfort. Get their breathing to even out and get them relaxed again.
• put back in crib and walk.
• Cry a lil more
• 10 min timer from then on. A lil longer if you think they’re on the brink of falling asleep.
• do this cycle until it works. A couple of nightmare nights and then it should stick. Anytime you cave, you’re breaking the training and causing more stress.

Now I’m (M) able to put in crib, sit on floor, and shh until they fall asleep on their own with minimal crying.

I used to call out ‘tag’ and hand the kid to my spouse when I was getting frustrated. Another thing thats possible is just wait out the tantrum. That’s a way of teaching them that tantrums don’t work to get what they want.

Most parenting books seemed to be summed up as ‘It depends’. There is a frustrating lack of empirically derived books. Best I can offer is talk now about parenting philosophy with spouse - e.g. how much crying is acceptable when 1 yo before you have to go comfort? When kid falls down do you swoop in or let the kid manage? Keep to that philosophy - kids hate flip-flopping on approaches

Every hour sit on potty for 10 seconds. No diapers - have to get that wet feeling and diapers wick it away. Training pants are thicker underwear. That helps. Communicate with daycare and do same strategy

Those are #5 plastic. Nobody recycles that. It goes straight to trash.

IMO, daycare should be helping you with potty training.

It sounds like she is forgetting whether she has diapers on or not. That’s something you can only do by going cold turkey on diapers - minus nap and sleeptime. Then immediately off again.

So the common plastic pump you see in every soap dispenser has two parts - the part you screw onto the soap container, and the piston thingy, above that, that you push down to get the soap to spurt out of and into your hand.
If you put something above the screwy part, on the lowest part of the piston, you reduce the amount that the piston goes down. And reduce the amount of soap that can come out.

I gotta try a new place then. I mean, the soap is nice but that was some sticker shock.

Also, put a hair tie or rubber band on the soap dispenser. You’ll use the amount of soap you actually need, and your hands will come out cleaner.

Its all well and good until you try to refill a $10 bottle of hand soap and they charge you $50

• Babies yes. I don’t think 1 year olds like the op are in that category. Both I and my friend with a baby recently asked our separate pediatricians that question - and they both responded with what I said.
• https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/sids-risk-by-age. The highest risk is 1 to 4 months old. That’s not op. This is about assessing risk vs other risks - like PPD and health of the parents. It’s ok for you to take that risk assessment one way and others to do differently.
• what I’ve heard is the same - there’s no difference in sleep trained vs other babies at the end of the day. So another way of saying that you can balance the impact on the parents and baby. We needed to do that for us. It’s ok if you didn’t need to.

Yes to the milk vs solids. Kids are smart and they know if they can get the bottle they will skip on other foods so they can get more of that.
My 3 yr old niece kept getting a big glass of cows milk before bed. As a result, she wasn’t really eating dinner. Was underweight. They cut milk out and suddenly she’s eating a lot more.

It depends on what steps you’re willing to take. 1 yr olds can sleep for that long uninterrupted.

OK. I recently had to go thru a lot of this and here’s my experiences. Every child is different… But there are some points here I think I can help with.

• night feedings. Talk to your Dr. if you don’t believe me. But I asked ours when our baby was 6 months old. The Dr. said that the baby was completely possible of sleeping thru the night - they did not need extra food in the night. They just wanted it. That’s fine … but it seems like that is affecting their sleep.
• location. Both of our kids slept better outside of our room. Noticeably so. I think us turning in our sleep or snoring is what triggered them to wake up. From tossing and turning and waking up to going much longer before wakeups. I subscribe to the view that your job as a parent is to minimize sadness in the long term - and sleep training does that - you have a bad week and at the end of it you’re kid can sleep in a room by themselves.
• sleep training - The goal being that your kid knows that their bed is a safe place to fall asleep - and to do that they need to fall asleep there by themselves. Wait until they’re sleepy, almost falling asleep, place into bed, pat pat on back for 10 seconds, then leave. Let them cry. Wait 10 mins and come back, comfort, get breathing even. Then place back in bed and let cry. Repeat a few times and they fall asleep. A few nights of that should be enough as long as you stick to the schedule.
• when child was 6-9 months, we did the transition to falling asleep by themselves. At first we got 8 to 3 am. Wife was doing night feeding, just to let children sleep so that she could go back to sleep quicker. Once we quit that by me stepping in instead at nights, child stopped waking up in middle of night. We were getting kid to sleep for 8-5. Now at almost 1 yr we’re getting 8-630.

I liked putting them horizontal in my arms, and then moving them up and down vertically … like pure up/ down at a bit fast.