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Cake day: Jun 17, 2023

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Don’t use that language in my house (referring to Gen Alpha slang, not foul language or anything).


I’ve been only semi-censoring myself with swearing although I didn’t really swear that much before kids. I also don’t take a hard line approach to my kids swearing. If my son says “Fuck” after banging his shin I’m like whatever. If he says it while playing a game I’ll remind him that’s not appropriate and he needs to take a break and calm down. I’d probably only dole out punishment if he repeatedly wasn’t following my rules or cursed at me.

In contrast I would’ve got one hell of a whooping from my dad if I let one slip. I still have the hardest time saying any swear words in front of him and I’m over 40. Conditioning your kids to fear you into adulthood is not a great strategy.


“This show is just garbage.”

I mean my son was watching some YouTube garbage. I get the appeal of things like Vlad and Nicki or The Diana Show, kids playing with an obscene amount of toys, but this was just tween nonsense of getting hit in the groin, fart jokes, ball jokes, body shaming, a bit of racism, destroying stuff without regard for safety precautions (I’m pretty sure there were no adults present), foul language (I’m not a never-say-swear-words parent but saying one every 30 seconds is excessive), and mild sexual humor. Be careful about letting your kids watch YouTube either on their own or without being signed in.


All I know is that English, for one, is a bit of a pain in the ass to teach because you just have to do drills until you remember specific words. You can get into a pattern for words like cow, bow, now, and plow. Then you get tripped up with words like mow, show, know, and tow (which sounds like toe, rhymes with go, but not to). 🤦


When I ask my kid to clean it seems to work well (minimal complaining) to focus on getting small sections totally clean instead of saying something like, “Clean up your Lego,” which might be everywhere.


Hope they have fun. I thought about it but now that I’m a parent it gives me a lot of anxiety to have my kids away so long. Also both my kids have special needs so that’s a factor.


5yo waking us up in the middle of the night
When he was still in diapers but old enough to sleep in a normal bed we had a child lock on his door to keep him out of trouble. We took off the safety knob soon after he started using the potty (that was over a year ago). It didn't happen immediately but slowly and moreso over the last few weeks he's coming into our room at 10p, 12a, or even 3a. It's usually stuff like a "monster in the closet", "I'm out of water", "I can't find my stuffed animal", or "my music box turned off". Telling him things like "turn on your light and see what's there", "monsters don't exist", or "the bathroom is open and you can refill your cup" he'll eventually have the same problem and wake us up again. Is this just a phase he'll grow out of or is there a better way to help him solve more of these problems on his own?
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