I always struggle with this because it wasn’t ever a big deal and I say that as the one getting spanked. It happened twice and afterwards, the threat was used to let me know when I was crossing the line. I certainly didn’t “use violence” against my peers growing up.

I feel like most folks when they talk about kids being spanked, what they’re imagining is more akin to child abuse rather than spanking.

It’s just a tool like any other. It works on some kids, it doesn’t on others.