Thank you for that perspective, it is comforting to hear.

I don’t think people talk about it very much because it sounds like “I didn’t love my kid right away.” However, I believe that it is pretty common based on these types of conversations. There is an unrealistic expectation that fathers bond with these little, uninteresting blobs at first sight and I just don’t think that’s how it works.

Dad to dad, you’ll feel the bond when the kid becomes more interactive and rational. Moms can connect that little blob with no problem. It’s tougher for dads, at first. It all balances out though. What you are feeling is normal. Just stick with it and don’t cheat on your wife.