Yeah, it’s going to depend on location and that’s a factor. But also people having kids later in life and so grandparents being less physically capable to act as consistent carers.

I remember when I was in school people were having kids so early and so late that I knew multiple kids who went to school with their uncles. Maybe not on the same grade but definitely being in the same school at the same time as their grandparent’s youngest.

I’m not saying it was better, I’m saying it made it easier, particularly with people’s first kids earlier in life.

It’s been a single generation, as I remember it. At least if you were born in the 80s/early 90s.

The average age to have a first child has skyrocketed and, particularly in some parts of the world, the idea of an extended family is no longer a thing. The support network has frayed a TON and the level of demand on parents has gone up at the same time.

And nobody seems to acknowledge it, honestly. At least outside bad faith fascistoid tradwife peddlers. But this isn’t about traditional gender roles, it’s about telling all parents that they need to constantly monitor their kids for two decades and simultaneously cutting them off from any source of help during that period (unless they’re filthy rich and can pay for dedicated labor to replace that support).

It’s not practical at all.

It’s not meant to be, man.

I remember being a kid, back when people had kids early and grandparents were both still around and healthy enough to help. I used to spend full weekends at my grandma’s, or at friends’ places or with aunts and uncles and other relatives. And a bit later kids would get together and roam the streets in packs.

We made it so kids only get to hang out with their parents and must be under constant supervision and it’s an entirely absurd proposition.