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Fucking no! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boy_Scouts_of_America_sex_abuse_cases
"In 2010, a jury ordered that the Boy Scouts of America pay US$18.5 million (equivalent to $27.3 million in 2025) to a scout who was abused in the 1980s – the largest punitive damages award to a single plaintiff in a child abuse case in the US.[7]
On February 18, 2020, the Boy Scouts of America filed for a Chapter 11 financial restructuring to offer “equitable compensation” to survivors and their families. The BSA cited approximately 200 pending lawsuits in state and federal district courts across the United States and 1,700 potential claimants in total. In May of that same year, the U.S. Bankruptcy Court for the District of Delaware set November 16, 2020, at 5 pm EST as the bar date for all survivors of sexual abuse; 92,700 sexual abuse claims were filed with the bankruptcy court by the deadline.[8]"
Of all the potential sources for child abuse training for an important topic, you might as well share the PowerPoint from the Vatican on how to keep young boys safe.
The works of the roots of the vines, of the trees, must be destroyed to keep up the price, and this is the saddest, bitterest thing of all.
Carloads of oranges dumped on the ground. The people came for miles to take the fruit, but this could not be. How would they buy oranges at twenty cents a dozen if they could drive out and pick them up? And men with hoses squirt kerosene on the oranges, and they are angry at the crime, angry at the people who have come to take the fruit. A million people hungry, needing the fruit - and kerosene sprayed over the golden mountains. And the smell of rot fills the country. Burn coffee for fuel in the ships. Burn corn to keep warm, it makes a hot fire. Dump potatoes in the rivers and place guards along the banks to keep the hungry people from fishing them out. Slaughter the pigs and bury them, and let the putrescence drip down into the earth.
There is a crime here that goes beyond denunciation.
There is a sorrow here that weeping cannot symbolize.
There is a failure here that topples all our success.
The fertile earth, the straight tree rows, the sturdy trunks, and the ripe fruit. And children dying of pellagra must die because a profit cannot be taken from an orange. And coroners must fill in the certificate - died of malnutrition - because the food must rot, must be forced to rot. The people come with nets to fish for potatoes in the river, and the guards hold them back; they come in rattling cars to get the dumped oranges, but the kerosene is sprayed. And they stand still and watch the potatoes float by, listen to the screaming pigs being killed in a ditch and covered with quick-lime, watch the mountains of oranges slop down to a putrefying ooze; and in the eyes of the people there is the failure; and in the eyes of the hungry there is a growing wrath. In the souls of the people the grapes of wrath are filling and growing heavy, growing heavy for the vintage.
John Steinbeck, The Grapes of Wrath
It’s a bit tricky to answer your prompt depending on what exactly you’re looking for with “better”:
- every child is different as you know, but accepting that what other parents/kids can do at even the same age and expecting your child to manage/perform the same is folly. Your child at 3 is ages ahead of others being able to fly successfully.
- I think of trips in terms of who they are for, and sometimes something that a parent wants or needs (which are still valid) is not something a child at x age can enjoy, appreciate, engage in, etc. if I want to go on a backpacking trip with a 5y/o, understand it’ll probably be miserable and leave them out. If you need time to photograph, be an adult and not take care of the constant needs of a little one for a few days or more, it’s OK to block out the time for an experience without them. It’s as normal as not taking them to a bar to meet your friends to catch up for a drink; it’s not for them and they don’t make sense there.
- combined trips with kids are fun, but you have to weigh what is for them and what isn’t. We try to do a balance and sometimes are pretty successful. We have had success getting our child to enjoy things other kids their age might not, but it’s not a guarantee or a competition, it’s pretty organic and is usually built over time
- speaking of “built over time”, one of the biggest things is to know your kid. Do they like to look at pictures on their own? Paint? Then you can probably make a museum work and can engage them in the content in some ways, but yes it’ll be very different than discussing with an adult only at the museum.
- Whatever your vacation/trip/activity I’d just try to have in my head who is getting what out of it, and communicate/acknowledge it from the start–though frankly 3 is young to be able to have a mid emotionally appreciate “the next 2 hours at the museum for mom/Dad is because there is a great exhibit with my favorite artist” type conversations. If they aren’t ready for that, still go, but you can’t take them and expect the kid to miraculously be ready for it and not be themselves and their age. You mentioned the 3 year old not appreciating hanging out on the beach…they don’t work or go to school so lying around is boring for them while it’s vital for older people.
Overall, know your needs and your kid’s, your kids emotional state, interests and maturity level and plan accordingly. If the child isn’t ready for certain things, it’s your job as a parent to make that call for their and your benefit. You’ll enjoy what you need and have more energy to appreciate activities with them where their needs lie when you do things in their space.
https://newrepublic.com/post/207139/hegseth-pentagon-scouting-america-dei
Definitely safe organization for youth, like cowering to a bigoted, felonious rapist thug and demonstrating to all these boys how to shred your principles. They just keep finding new ways to suck.