When my kids are raging about having to do something (e.g. go to an activity, empty the dishwasher), explain why it’s important and then walk away.
Half the time they calm down and so the thing with little or no complaint. The other half of the time it gives us both a chance to calm down so negotiations can continue in a less heated manner.
It took me a while to bond with our first kid, so I knew what to expect with our second. That made the start so much easier.
I feel like I’m looking in a mirror with both of them. One is normal me: awkward, bookish, and introverted. The other is energetic me: outgoing, confident, and athletic. They’re both smart. They can both be kind (they can also be dicks). They’re wonderful together. My regret is that we won’t have another.
You never know what the future holds, and who your kids will be. My guys have been great.
If you have another, I hope it works out well.
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