I didn’t make gender a variable, the parent comment that I replied to did.

Kindergarteners shouldn’t be taught to hit back.

I would press them for more intervention. Separate the kids when they’re playing, watching them more closely, time outs for the instigator. Make it clear this is unacceptable moving forward and that it is impacting your son’s ability to participate at school.

What does the director and teachers tell you about how they’re handling the situation?

Karate is a great extracurricular. They aren’t going to teach him to hit back to restore his pride or self-esteem like the other user pushed though. They’ll help him build his self-esteem internally which will help with his emotional resilience.

Then pull him from the daycare if the director and the teachers refuse to protect your son.

Why aren’t you pressing the adults for more action here? Are you content to let them just be looped in and do nothing to protect your son?

Ok 5 years old. That doesn’t change my point at all.

The adults need to take more action.

It probably would work because small children are incredibly empathetic when you communicate effectively. They understand boo-boos and that they don’t like to be hit, so they shouldn’t hit. It takes patience and consistency. Something that violent people don’t have much practice in.

And the teachers need to do something about that. Teaching this little boy to hit back when he’s scared isn’t going to solve the problem you think it is. It’s going to cause more problems for that boy in his life.

They are 4 years old

She shouldn’t be taught to hit back either! They’re 4 years old

The original commentator that you’re defending did.

The world where girls and women are raped at extremely high rates by men? By violent men? By men that are taught that they can restore their pride and self-esteem by enacting violence on others?

Yeah, come live in this world with me.

Sending a 4 year old out with the message that they can alleviate their fear by being violent only breeds more violence.

They should be taught how to resolve conflict without hitting.

They’re 4 years old.

I would escalate it then. There needs to be a solution for either separating them or punishing the offender or both. I’m surprised they haven’t acted yet to be honest.

They’re in kindergarten. Teaching to hit back shouldn’t be so highly upvoted. Teaching boys to hit girls isn’t going to repair his self esteem or his pride.

Alright then.

That’s awesome! I dunno, I think you’re doing it just right :)

Haha oh the choice of when to read is easy enough to give a child as well. My son usually chooses to read for a half hour before bedtime.

There are always going to be tasks that must get done and that’s an important lesson for children as well. By giving them as much choice as possible and holding them to their choices, it’s a two way street and a partnership instead of simply forcing them.

I think it’s important to allow choice of reading material while mandating minimum reading time. Schools usually assign specific books whereas at home there can be much more autonomy.

I have my 10 year old read about 30 minutes a day, give or take depending on activities or whatever we’re doing after school.

I think you’re doing great! Reading is such an important foundation to learning anything, it really can’t hurt to encourage it and have a baseline expectation.

Did I miss the memo on this one?

If you missed it, then so did I. Not once have I heard or seen teachers in kindergarten do this. It sounds like your son is really distressed about this.

Is this is a daycare setup with kids needing their diapers changed? In my area of the world, kindergarten is the first year of formal school and for 4-5 year olds who are already potty trained.

I’m really curious what the teachers respond with to your concerns here.

Yeah I’ve definitely had conversations with my kid about the darker stuff that is on the internet. It’s a little bit of a different conversation when it’s our own government providing the killings.