And I 1000% Believe my mom and her mom can take partial credit for my achievements.

And I’ll all but guarantee you they did those things simply because they love you, not because of some grandiose idea of a “legacy” or a desperate need to live beyond their death.

Planning for the future in order to care for your family and friends is an expression of love, not ambition.

Never had any ambition or dreams that was greater than 1 life time

Nope. That way lies delusions of grandeur. Life is short and I’d rather focus on living it today rather than worrying about a “legacy” I’ll never experience.

If you want any part of you to achieve something past the one life you have, children are the only way ambition can continue

And that way lies the kind of entitlement that leads parents to think their children’s lives are their own.

You aren’t achieving anything past your life. Your kids are. Their ambition is theirs, not yours. Stop thinking you can take credit for it.