I read this as a former child and never-to-be parent: Child got tasked with chores, got overwhelmed, forgot some or chose which to deem more important and you disagreed, then both of you had a short, intense conversation about forgetting things where child (kind of) agreed to reminders by you.
Why is the child really forgetting things? Just saying ‘probably ADHD’ or ‘doesn’t want to do them’ is not enough at all.
Why aren’t you teaching the child how to do reminders autonomously?
Why do the reminders need a reply? If the child is unable to do the reminded thing, applying additional pressure by requiring a unique answer won’t help. If the reminders are actually trying to confirm pieces of collaborative work, the texts are not reminders at all, because reminders are optional by nature. These semantics are important, because it completely changes the discussion.
I read this as a former child and never-to-be parent: Child got tasked with chores, got overwhelmed, forgot some or chose which to deem more important and you disagreed, then both of you had a short, intense conversation about forgetting things where child (kind of) agreed to reminders by you.
Why is the child really forgetting things? Just saying ‘probably ADHD’ or ‘doesn’t want to do them’ is not enough at all.
Why aren’t you teaching the child how to do reminders autonomously?
Why do the reminders need a reply? If the child is unable to do the reminded thing, applying additional pressure by requiring a unique answer won’t help. If the reminders are actually trying to confirm pieces of collaborative work, the texts are not reminders at all, because reminders are optional by nature. These semantics are important, because it completely changes the discussion.