
We have never bought new couches. My main chair is older than I am. But I did sit in a chair in a shop the other day and the back was right up behind my head, a surprisingly hard thing to find for someone tall-ish like me. Almost made me want to buy it.
I hate visiting other people because they have short backed couches that just aren’t person-shaped. Makes me wonder how they sit there for hours.
I have a kid who (on a regular basis) took felt tip pens and just started colouring at the toes, up the legs, arms, all the way to the head sometimes. Changing colours as they felt like it.
They did this well past the toddler years.
Pro tip: washable markers are a lot more washable if you wash it off straight away instead of waiting all day.
Kids that age shouldn’t just be able to use a computer unsupervised or have free access to a computer/console like that. Screentime is a thing and its important.
There is no indication that’s it’s free unlimited access. I don’t get how it being unsupervised is related to screen time.
I’d happily throw minecraft on a phone to a kid in the back seat of the car. I can’t see what they are doing, but I know that minecraft not on a public server has very little content inappropriate for a 5 year old, and what little there is doesn’t come up if you have peaceful mode on.
I’m not convinced that a 5 year old can’t grasp the concept of virtuality. Minecraft on peaceful mode is just giant blocks being picked up and placed. Even if it were true they don’t get that it’s virtual (that I don’t really understand how that could be true), I can’t imagine what long term damage could possibly be done by believing the blocks are real.




I’d argue this change has a lot to do with women entering the workforce, to the point most families have (need to have) two working parents to get by. Now what used to be man has factory job woman looks after house and kids is now two parents each have jobs, so who looks after house and kids? Much of housework has been reduced with washing machines, dishwashers, etc.
It’s pretty common knowledge (I think?) that in most nuclear households women took on a job and still do most of the housework including child care (especially the mental load - I.e. Keeping track of what needs to be done and making sure it gets done - project manager) Over time men have a started to pick up some of the slack but there’s still a long way to go. The article from this post talks about how it’s improving for college educated but getting worse for those not college educated.
TBH I have no idea how you count who is doing the childcare at any particular point. If the kids are off playing and both parents are scrolling on their phones, do you both count that time or do neither of you count it, or is there some method of determining who is the primary person at that point? Working out these hours of childcare would be much easier for separated parents 😆


I’m here. Have been wondering about a place to post the stuff my youngest has been saying lately, they are at the perfect age.
Questions like “Dad, how do giraffes draw pictures?”
And statements like “I’m going to get married. To myself. Because I want to”.
When my eldest was about that age I got “Dad, why do we only have one sun?” and so I had to explain orbital dynamics to a preschooler.


Is it good for kids? Equally important: Is it good for parents? In my opinion, the well-being of one’s children, who one brought into this world without their consent, will always come first.
One interesting thing in this space is that parental well being often leads to better child outcomes, so it’s important not to ignore the impact on parents.
Though the article does have pretty loose definitions on “gentle parenting” (since they asked participants for their definitions), so hard to say where the line is.
And a bit of a tangent but the research also wasn’t trying to look into whether gentle parenting is hard on parents (they said it was information given un-prompted), so there isn’t a comparison against the alternative. Maybe all parenting is hard on parents?
Not the one I was looking at: https://f-droid.org/packages/it.danieleverducci.lunatracker/
I do see with a web search there is a period tracker with the same name. Confusing!