Father of two: 3 and 1y old.
Loved both kids instantly. The second one didn’t take anything away from the love for my first. It felt more like my heart expanded to have enough space for both.
Our biggest issue is that we lack a good support system, both grandparents live too far away and are still working. The second child aggravated the issue, especially since she was very difficult in the newborn stage. By now we have mostly figured out how to take care of them regardless and it is very enjoyable having them both.
Two kids are vastly more work than just one. When we had just the one, one of us could always take a break. As they become older, things get easier again, which is a great relief.
Four weeks after the birth of child 2 I had a vasectomy done, we knew right away that we maxed out our capacity.
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Father of two: 3 and 1y old. Loved both kids instantly. The second one didn’t take anything away from the love for my first. It felt more like my heart expanded to have enough space for both.
Our biggest issue is that we lack a good support system, both grandparents live too far away and are still working. The second child aggravated the issue, especially since she was very difficult in the newborn stage. By now we have mostly figured out how to take care of them regardless and it is very enjoyable having them both. Two kids are vastly more work than just one. When we had just the one, one of us could always take a break. As they become older, things get easier again, which is a great relief. Four weeks after the birth of child 2 I had a vasectomy done, we knew right away that we maxed out our capacity.