Where I live, Germany, it is very common to spend weeks, sometimes even months, trying to slowly get a child used to going to day care. In my home country, the Netherlands, this wasn’t really a thing when I was younger and, from what I’ve learned from people with young children there, isn’t common even today. That got me thinking.

Are there many differences between countries when it comes to day care and specifically getting your children to go to day care in the first place?

We’re currently getting our second child used to day care. For our first child the entire process took six weeks and represented the Idea trajectory - nobody was ill, she liked going there, she liked eating there and she didn’t make a fuss when it was time to sleep there. Still, this represents a significant investment of time (and therefore money) for any working parent. Sometimes it seems really absurd and impractical. I get the impression that the entire day care system in Germany revolves around the idea that mothers don’t work or, if they do, it’s only ever part time.

How does this look like in other countries? I’ve linked an article (in German, but translation services are available) about the system we’re stuck with here, if anyone wants to dive deeper.

1st day: Maybe stay all day or until lunch?
2nd day: Come back for lunch e 1st week: Come back for lunch on Friday

Beyond maybe weekly or monthly lunches, ideally from retired grandparents or shift-workers such as myself, I got nothing.

Dragging it out is almost always harder on everyone, including stay-at-home parents, but good luck getting them to admit that, or the teachers to admit when a parent is disruptive. The helicoptering and overly-pushy PTA/drama non-sense starts here.

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