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They’ll get the ties to your country through you, like all immigrant and first-gen kids do. They’ll just be closer to the culture they live in. Speak your native language, feed them traditional food from your country, show them music or movies from your country, things like that. Take them on trips to visit your country, if that’s doable. I’m first-generation Canadian with Portuguese parents and through things like that, I’ve always felt Portuguese. Definitely more Canadian, but also Portuguese.


My kids are still youngish enough that I can get away with limiting their internet access to screens I can see and hear. They have the TV in the living room and an old laptop beside dad’s desk. I tell them that there are a lot of bad things on the internet and I need to be able to help them if they find something bad by accident. Whenever they stumble on something questionable, I tell them why I don’t like it and we look for something else. Luckily they really don’t argue about it (yet, I’m sure). I feel like it’s working, though. They seem to be developing a healthy relationship with tech and screens. They love to watch arts and crafts tutorials on youtube and have been teaching themselves to draw and play piano, and they’re actually doing well!


Parenting reminds me of the abusive relationships I watched my mom and friends go through. Children scream at you and hit you and treat you like absolute shit, and then they turn around and lovebomb you by acting like the sweetest little angels. Never knew my coping mechanisms from my shitty childhood would be so helpful.


I read once that kids believe things they overhear more than the things that they are directly told and have been trying to do this ever since.


I put this on my laptop, too. It has games that teach kids how to use a mouse and keyboard.


My daughters loved this show, too, and so do a lot of the kids I’ve met. Definitely recommend if you are looking for something Spiderman for little kids. There are also books based on the show if you would rather have books.


Yeah I’ve accepted that a lot of things simply come down to the personality a kid was born with.


I also want to point out that you can feed your baby/toddler all the “good” foods and none of the “bad” foods and they can still become picky and reject the things they used to eat. My kids ate all the same things yours did and then one day when they were each about three, they decided they didn’t eat anything anymore. Some days I can only get rice into one kid and eggs into the other.



Answers for little kids don’t need to get too detailed and complicated. They’ll develop nuance as they get older. Air feels and sounds like wind, though


Some things are pretend, like unicorns. Reality is all the real things you can see, touch, smell, hear, and taste.


I just say no and shut the door. I don’t say it rudely but I also don’t wait for a response. It’s really not that hard?


I figured out how to bake bread with meal replacement shake mix. Now I have homemade, ultra-enriched white bread for my incredibly picky children.


My kids had that toy and now its song is stuck in my head.


  • Please eat your pancakes.
  • Please eat your pizza.
  • Please eat your quesadilla.
  • Please eat your chicken nuggets.

Fuck it. I’m feeding these children nothing but boiled chicken and canned peas from now on.



My husband and I were 26 and we are the youngest we typically come across. Most were closer to 30 or in their 30s.



I ask my four year old if anger is at the control panel when she is starting to have a tantrum and it has actually been working to defuse the tantrums before they really get going.


I felt a lot of guilt at first because I was so tired when I was pregnant and had very little energy to play with my toddler. When 2 was born I then felt so guilty that I couldn’t give her as much attention as I gave her sister, and that I could no longer give 1 as much attention as before. I didn’t attach as quickly to my second but I did eventually. Maybe a couple months or so? I feel the same about them both now. 2 starts school this year and I’m so sad I’m not going to have my little buddy home with me all day.

I’m exhausted but having two is nice. I really love watching and listening to them play together (although their fighting makes me want to stab myself in the ears). Helping them build a strong friendship with each other is really rewarding.



When I’m overstimulated to hell because my children are being incredibly loud demon spawn and they just broke something and nobody will listen to a word I say, I always wonder how much easier my life would be if I would just spank my children. Still not going to do it.


I never slept lighter than when I had babies. I slept through an earthquake before having children but after I would jolt awake at the sound of their pajamas rustling on the sheets.


Maybe all parenting is hard on parents?

That’s pretty much it. None of the parents’ complaints seemed to have anything at all to do with their parenting style. Kids are crazy. It’s exhausting. Spanking and yelling won’t make it any less exhausting.


Not to momshame anyone but my children slept in this standard time day. Finally, my children are the good ones D: