They’ll get the ties to your country through you, like all immigrant and first-gen kids do. They’ll just be closer to the culture they live in. Speak your native language, feed them traditional food from your country, show them music or movies from your country, things like that. Take them on trips to visit your country, if that’s doable. I’m first-generation Canadian with Portuguese parents and through things like that, I’ve always felt Portuguese. Definitely more Canadian, but also Portuguese.
My kids are still youngish enough that I can get away with limiting their internet access to screens I can see and hear. They have the TV in the living room and an old laptop beside dad’s desk. I tell them that there are a lot of bad things on the internet and I need to be able to help them if they find something bad by accident. Whenever they stumble on something questionable, I tell them why I don’t like it and we look for something else. Luckily they really don’t argue about it (yet, I’m sure). I feel like it’s working, though. They seem to be developing a healthy relationship with tech and screens. They love to watch arts and crafts tutorials on youtube and have been teaching themselves to draw and play piano, and they’re actually doing well!
Parenting reminds me of the abusive relationships I watched my mom and friends go through. Children scream at you and hit you and treat you like absolute shit, and then they turn around and lovebomb you by acting like the sweetest little angels. Never knew my coping mechanisms from my shitty childhood would be so helpful.
I also want to point out that you can feed your baby/toddler all the “good” foods and none of the “bad” foods and they can still become picky and reject the things they used to eat. My kids ate all the same things yours did and then one day when they were each about three, they decided they didn’t eat anything anymore. Some days I can only get rice into one kid and eggs into the other.
It’s a reference to a movie she likes, Inside Out.
I felt a lot of guilt at first because I was so tired when I was pregnant and had very little energy to play with my toddler. When 2 was born I then felt so guilty that I couldn’t give her as much attention as I gave her sister, and that I could no longer give 1 as much attention as before. I didn’t attach as quickly to my second but I did eventually. Maybe a couple months or so? I feel the same about them both now. 2 starts school this year and I’m so sad I’m not going to have my little buddy home with me all day.
I’m exhausted but having two is nice. I really love watching and listening to them play together (although their fighting makes me want to stab myself in the ears). Helping them build a strong friendship with each other is really rewarding.
They’re made to be disposable and are often quite damaged, I believe.