To add to what @victorz@lemmy.world was saying above, you usually also have the right to work fewer hours if you have as small child (unpaid), but I’m not sure about the caveats. I work 75% through that mechanism. In my case it’s not really a choice; if I’d work 100% like my wife too many chores wouldn’t get done. I also wouldn’t be able to do that on the amount of sleep and rest I’m getting (a few hours too few and almost none).
I should also add that you are explicitly only given subsidised childcare when doing paid wage work. You’re not allowed to for example pop in and do some shopping on the way to pick-up, which I presume most people do anyway from time to time because who is going to check.
This system is nice in the traditionally social democrat smoke stack sense of allowing you and everyone else the freedom to do paid wage work at the factory and very little else. With a more or less private system you’re paying for the service of “please take care of my children”, which means that the marginal cost of “please take care of my child for an extra hour while I talk to my wife/go shopping/clean at home” is huge by comparison, but what you get for that is a greater degree of equality and availability.
I write the last part mainly to work against the stereotype of Sweden as a socialist utopia; sure this is a socialist policy, but it’s a pretty boring one that’s very 1950s.
You’re not allowed to for example pop in and do some shopping on the way to pick-up, which I presume most people do anyway from time to time because who is going to check.
Indeed. Another perspective (not my own) is:
“I work weekends sometimes as a nurse and I get no freaking rest and recovery unless I send the kids to daycare on the one day in the middle of the week that I’m not working this week, lest I collapse from exhaustion”. Not gonna lie, it’s more healthy for the kids as well because it creates a better routine for them.
Or,
“If I don’t pop in to buy this carton of milk for 5-10 minutes before pickup, we’ll have to do it after pickup, in which case it’ll take 45 minutes to an hour and the kids will be tired and irritated (and so will I) and get less sleep because of the extra time before supper and they’ll be cranky tomorrow morning causing all kinds of domino effect havoc”.
Both cases are worse for the kids, if you follow the rules.
🤷♂️ I’m definitely guilty of not following the rules 100 %. Actually somewhat proud of it, but I can’t admit to it to anyone because I’ll be guilty of fraud or some shit.
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To add to what @victorz@lemmy.world was saying above, you usually also have the right to work fewer hours if you have as small child (unpaid), but I’m not sure about the caveats. I work 75% through that mechanism. In my case it’s not really a choice; if I’d work 100% like my wife too many chores wouldn’t get done. I also wouldn’t be able to do that on the amount of sleep and rest I’m getting (a few hours too few and almost none).
I should also add that you are explicitly only given subsidised childcare when doing paid wage work. You’re not allowed to for example pop in and do some shopping on the way to pick-up, which I presume most people do anyway from time to time because who is going to check.
This system is nice in the traditionally social democrat smoke stack sense of allowing you and everyone else the freedom to do paid wage work at the factory and very little else. With a more or less private system you’re paying for the service of “please take care of my children”, which means that the marginal cost of “please take care of my child for an extra hour while I talk to my wife/go shopping/clean at home” is huge by comparison, but what you get for that is a greater degree of equality and availability.
I write the last part mainly to work against the stereotype of Sweden as a socialist utopia; sure this is a socialist policy, but it’s a pretty boring one that’s very 1950s.
Indeed. Another perspective (not my own) is:
“I work weekends sometimes as a nurse and I get no freaking rest and recovery unless I send the kids to daycare on the one day in the middle of the week that I’m not working this week, lest I collapse from exhaustion”. Not gonna lie, it’s more healthy for the kids as well because it creates a better routine for them.
Or,
“If I don’t pop in to buy this carton of milk for 5-10 minutes before pickup, we’ll have to do it after pickup, in which case it’ll take 45 minutes to an hour and the kids will be tired and irritated (and so will I) and get less sleep because of the extra time before supper and they’ll be cranky tomorrow morning causing all kinds of domino effect havoc”.
Both cases are worse for the kids, if you follow the rules.
🤷♂️ I’m definitely guilty of not following the rules 100 %. Actually somewhat proud of it, but I can’t admit to it to anyone because I’ll be guilty of fraud or some shit.