Second time mom with a 5 week old. I am one who is mindful of nap lengths, wake windows, and aiming towards a schedule once age appropriate. I understand 5 weeks is way too young and to just follow cues. However, my baby is seeming to gravitate towards a schedule but there is a bit of a blip.
Baby wakes between 7:30 - 8:00 am, stays awake for 1 - 1.5 hours each window, takes naps for 45 min - 2 hrs until mid afternoon. She then fights that last nap and doesn’t take it, and ends up going to bed at 8:00, sleeping 12 hours. I’ve read babies this age don’t sleep 12 hours overnight (2 feeds still) and she is awake from like 4:00 to 8:00 pm which is way too long for a 5 week old. The last window is cranky and she is clearly tired but just refuses.
I’m a mom and a long time career nanny. In my career, I once had a kid who sleeps the way you are describing yours sleeps, in a twelve-hour straight run. It is a gift with no negative consequences. Grab that glory and don’t look back.
My own kid has always had a late bedtime. I’m talking 9 pm. Even when the book said it should be earlier, nope, not my kid.
I learned from following Dr. Pam Douglas that my kid has a huge stimulation appetite and just hadn’t built enough sleep pressure due to not actually doing anything or learning much and when I exposed him to a lot, he went to bed for his night sleep earlier and still to this day that’s his pattern. He’s 11 months and Saturday we went to a La Leche League meeting, a baby shower, a sprayground, and then a friend’s house. He went to bed at 5 pm and slept the night through. Sunday, we went to the farmer’s market but otherwise puttered around the house and he struggled to fall asleep by 10 pm. But Saturday’s level of go-go-go is completely unsustainable for us, so I’ve come to terms with a later bed time.
Dr. Douglas’s research shows that contrary to not-evidence-based opinion, children fuss not from overstimulation but from understimulation and that children in their first year are primed to be the biggest learning sponges they could ever possibly be so seek all the data and most parents do the opposite of meeting that need. 🤷♀️ I mean, she’s got sources and peer reviewed papers and all. But for me, all I can say is that my kid responds better now and also when he was a newborn to more exposure to the things rather than less exposure to the things. And really, the whole goal is to find what works for the kid you have, right?
On the one hand, part of me thinks, take the twelve hours! My firstborn was a terrible sleeper and after that experience, sleep trumped all other concerns in our household.
However, one thing about said firstborn that I wish I’d had the experience to figure out sooner was that part of the reason he didn’t sleep was because he was very easily overstimulated. He had a very short window between fine and cranky, and if we missed it, sucked to be us. There were no cues. What we needed to do was not wait for cues, but we had no idea what we were doing. If she’s resisting, maybe try a bit earlier in the schedule, before she gets cranky?
Also, it’s worth checking with the doctor to see if they’d be worried about the 12 hour thing. If she’s eating well and staying on her charts, the doc may also tell you to enjoy your good sleeper.
Ha I know, I feel like I shouldn’t fix anything if we’re getting 12, but that last window is awful for both baby and the rest of family, I don’t want her going through that. I was just noticing that her sleepy cues seem nonexistent now all of a sudden… There was no yawning or zoning out, but she was clearly needing a nap when I offered one. Perhaps a bit earlier for putdown makes sense. Thanks!
at 5 weeks it’s hard to say; if this goes on for a while would be worth a chat with the pediatrician but it seems like you’re experienced and aware. Our kiddo had zero sleep issues if we stuck to a good schedule every day; some kids are easier!
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I’m a mom and a long time career nanny. In my career, I once had a kid who sleeps the way you are describing yours sleeps, in a twelve-hour straight run. It is a gift with no negative consequences. Grab that glory and don’t look back.
My own kid has always had a late bedtime. I’m talking 9 pm. Even when the book said it should be earlier, nope, not my kid.
I learned from following Dr. Pam Douglas that my kid has a huge stimulation appetite and just hadn’t built enough sleep pressure due to not actually doing anything or learning much and when I exposed him to a lot, he went to bed for his night sleep earlier and still to this day that’s his pattern. He’s 11 months and Saturday we went to a La Leche League meeting, a baby shower, a sprayground, and then a friend’s house. He went to bed at 5 pm and slept the night through. Sunday, we went to the farmer’s market but otherwise puttered around the house and he struggled to fall asleep by 10 pm. But Saturday’s level of go-go-go is completely unsustainable for us, so I’ve come to terms with a later bed time.
Dr. Douglas’s research shows that contrary to not-evidence-based opinion, children fuss not from overstimulation but from understimulation and that children in their first year are primed to be the biggest learning sponges they could ever possibly be so seek all the data and most parents do the opposite of meeting that need. 🤷♀️ I mean, she’s got sources and peer reviewed papers and all. But for me, all I can say is that my kid responds better now and also when he was a newborn to more exposure to the things rather than less exposure to the things. And really, the whole goal is to find what works for the kid you have, right?
On the one hand, part of me thinks, take the twelve hours! My firstborn was a terrible sleeper and after that experience, sleep trumped all other concerns in our household.
However, one thing about said firstborn that I wish I’d had the experience to figure out sooner was that part of the reason he didn’t sleep was because he was very easily overstimulated. He had a very short window between fine and cranky, and if we missed it, sucked to be us. There were no cues. What we needed to do was not wait for cues, but we had no idea what we were doing. If she’s resisting, maybe try a bit earlier in the schedule, before she gets cranky?
Also, it’s worth checking with the doctor to see if they’d be worried about the 12 hour thing. If she’s eating well and staying on her charts, the doc may also tell you to enjoy your good sleeper.
Ha I know, I feel like I shouldn’t fix anything if we’re getting 12, but that last window is awful for both baby and the rest of family, I don’t want her going through that. I was just noticing that her sleepy cues seem nonexistent now all of a sudden… There was no yawning or zoning out, but she was clearly needing a nap when I offered one. Perhaps a bit earlier for putdown makes sense. Thanks!
at 5 weeks it’s hard to say; if this goes on for a while would be worth a chat with the pediatrician but it seems like you’re experienced and aware. Our kiddo had zero sleep issues if we stuck to a good schedule every day; some kids are easier!